Fear of confrontation

Fear of Confrontation

There is of course no dearth of people who derive pleasure out of fighting but for the better part most human beings would like to avoid a potential conflict situation. This again is a primal human behavior; you will notice that when faced by a confrontational situation our blood pressure and heart rate rises due to the secretion of adrenalin and we feel the physical manifestations of anxiety, discomfort, anger etc. This physical and metal reaction is very normal however, some people live in abject fear of confrontation and their fear transcends the bounds of a mere distaste of quarrelling.

These individuals will do anything to avoid getting into a conflict or facing a person who may clash with them. People who fear confrontations usually resort to doing overtly pleasing things or being very passive in the face of a conflict situation. Both reactions are detrimental for their physical and mental well being, being very passive will eventually lead to passive aggression while always trying to please others to avoid conflict will lead to depression.

It is not unusual for many people to ignore certain situations or issues to avoid a fight and maintain peace. Sometimes the differences in opinion may simply not be worth fighting for. But then there are other times when your core beliefs and principles are questioned or when being submissive may lead you to do or say things that you will eventually regret. In such a situation a confrontation may be called for yet to know that you will not be able to take a stand or that you are too petrified of conflict to retaliate can be very horrible.

There can be several causes that may lead to such a fear of conflict; it can very well be attributed to childhood conditioning where a parent may always scorn at the idea of a conflict, watching a parent who is scared of conflict or being traumatized by a conflict situation that turned out badly. Any of these causes can give rise to various emotions like fear, anger, shame, anxiety, terror etc at the though of a conflict.

Even though it is good to go through life as peacefully as possible not standing up for yourself when it is needed can mean that you are missing out on an important aspect of life.

Since the roots of this fear are deeply embedded in your subconscious mind hypnosis can prove extremely helpful is breaking this limiting pattern. Most often people with a fear of confrontation cannot take conscious steps to change their behavior. But with hypnosis I can help you to reach into the deep recesses of your unconscious mind and this is where the automatic responses or triggers are set up.

With hypnosis I can help you to reprogram your responses in conflict and dispute situations. This will help you to be calmer and self controlled when faced with a confrontation.